Live your dreams – not others’
I graduated from high school and did military service. I play hockey and work. My dream is to play hockey in Stockholm for Hammarby. I am in a stage of life where I have the opportunity to fulfill my dream and just drive on.
I go down to Stockholm and train with Bajen Fans Hockey and feel how much I want to move to Stockholm and do what I love most, for the club in my heart. I will come home to Vaasa again, and start planning a move to Stockholm. While I was planning how to solve the move, I also told others that I wanted to move. People around me did not have positive things to say about my idea. Things that were said to me: “Do not be ridiculous. how are you going to cope? ”,“ Are you completely sure now? ”,“ What are you going to do there alone? ”. The result when I listened to what others thought, was that I moved to Umeå so as not to be left alone. I do not dare to follow my dream because I am told that my dream is ridiculous and that I will not succeed. I make choices I do not want to make so as not to look bad with the people closest to me. It did not turn out as I had imagined in Umeå, I really did not feel well. It was not MY dream but someone else’s dream I was trying to live. Of course I became an adventure richer, but it was not what I wanted and therefore I could not fully enjoy my time in Umeå. I was only there because I did not dare to live my dream, and for all the negative things that were said about my dream took over. No one supported my dream or said anything positive. It is better to be quiet than to despise the dreams of others.
The decision I made then was a major setback in my life. The feeling of inadequacy and that my dream was ridiculous and made up, I swept under the rug. This was a feeling that built up for the future burnout. I have managed to distance myself from people who do not add anything to my life – my circle is more positive today than before.
There are people who do not dream or do nothing to achieve their own dreams, who just push down the people who do things to achieve their dreams. Learn not to be influenced by their negative comments. Your job is not to live the dreams of others or to be valued by people who do nothing to achieve theirs. Dream big! It is your dream and your life that you will live!